When in arguments

 Not always angry ones, but within arguments I have noticed something about people lately. I'm not and repeat am not aiming this journal at anyone, I have had literally about 4 different talks with people and that's just recent, not withing the last few months even. and one thing that stands out is this.

 If there is subject matter, people will only agree,advocate, support, accept, and even listen to, only what coincides with their own view points, even if it may have holes in the subject, they will willingly ignore them, even to a point when offered another view point, even when it has facts to back up its argument, so as to simply disagree and assume, and take things into over literal context so it could be used for their own belief.  When facts are on both sides and there are also misconceptions on both sides, people would rather keep to their sides than take truly and fully both sides  into account and make a more balanced choice.  This far left and far right wing bullshit these days really irks me you know?   But the ironic part is, that everyone absolutely everyone does this.  people don't want facts, they want their ears tickled so to speak. They want their beliefs and views promoted, period.if it opposes people tend to try to dissect it more veraciously than normal. if it advocates it, then  they tend to give a nod and go on about their day without thinking. It's only natural to create and seek groups of and for like minded people, it gives greater chance for survival and allows a more comfortable existence usually. Anything opposing these things makes people become defensive and even offensive.  People will use what ever ammo they can to win their argument, even trying to use the same things that were said to them back at you. People don't want change, improvment, or anything to go against their comfortable life, thinking is hard and can be stressful so it's far easier to simply go with any particular flow that you're in, whether it be going this way or that way, or that other way.  As much you try to not do these things, you will, it's simply human nature. but reducing greatly helps.   Simply saying "that's wrong"   without a reason or trying to use a single example, or making something sound smart when really it's to simplistic and even has opposing facts, to promote a way of thinking, or to try to prove something even if the subject matter is meaningless to you, is simply small minded.  You have to look at things you don't like, and admit to things you don't want to, and sometimes even up root your very way of thinking, and personal ethics in order to grow as a human being.